Who’s afraid of dying anyway? The Cheapest Life Insurance looks at reasons we tend not to think about death…
Sadly we all know that deep down we’re not immortal. As much as we try to avoid it, the sad fact is that all of use have one inevitable end.
However, that said it’s no reason to feel depressed or sad – not when there’s so much of life to live beforehand.
In today’s blog, we take a look at the reasons people have for being afraid, as well as why we tend to NOT think about death if we possibly can.
The good news is that we are all living longer. As we get healthier and look after ourselves the years add up, so the average age these days for men and women dying is markedly higher than it was even 20 or 30 years ago.
As Woody Allen once said; “I am not afraid of death. I just don’t want to be there when it happens” and in a sense he had a good point!
We do seem at times to have resolved our issues with death by not dealing with it and forgetting that it will happen for now. However, this isn’t always a good way to deal with anything. In fact, it’s one of the reasons so many people in the UK don’t have any kind of life insurance. It’s always going to happen in the future.
Interestingly by thinking about death differently we can actually empower ourselves and end up enjoying life a whole lot more as we begin to appreciate the world around us and the people who are in it.
In the Buddhist religion life and death are part of a single ‘whole’ which means you inhale life itself and you exhale when you die. It’s a profound statement but has some resonance perhaps.
People also feel that death has some kind of shame attached to it. People don’t know what to say when someone dies – that’s the truth – but as those who have maybe seen their loved one pass on – life is most definitely for living now and appreciating its real value. You get one chance at it (unless you are of a particular religion which is just as valid) and therefore you should treasure every single moment of it.
Another element to Buddhist culture is that a ‘distracted life’ won’t be a ‘full life’. This is really again saying that focusing on the moment now is what you should be doing. Rather than looking for things you may do or want which are merely a dream like state. Sometimes it’s as simple as enjoying what you’re doing with a decluttered mind. That’s time for you and your family while you shut out whatever it might be that has stressed you out.
Another reason we perhaps are afraid of dying is simply not knowing what will happen. That can only be answered when we pass on but one things for sure, wouldn’t you rather have enjoyed every opportunity you ever had, done every single thing you wanted to do and taken even the simplest joy from the simplest of times in your life to know that you’ve lived?
When people experience death many people all say that they finally understand what it really means to love. Whether this is true or not is down to the individual perhaps but it can be a poignant moment once you understand what’s important and the love you may have had for the person who’s suddenly no longer there.
The truth is, like getting on an aeroplane, you have no control over what will happen or when, so perhaps you should just enjoy the flight, the majesty of the world from 30’000 feet and the journey itself and worry about the landing when you get there!